Middle Stages (anywhere from 2-8 months)
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| Continue to have your own life and turn your phone off when you can |
If you have reached the middle dating stages of a Big-Willoughby relationship, don’t fret, you are not totally without help. Please, please, please heed the following advice.
1) DO NOT have sex with Big-Willoughby thinking that it will seal the intimacy deal. It won’t. Sex is not love. If you are contemplating taking things to this level, ask yourself why you are having sex with him. What are your motives?
2) Continue to have your own life and turn your phone off when you can. If you are out to dinner and/or drinks with your friends, do not keep your cell phone out on the table or on the bar waiting for him to call.
3) Keep dating other men in an attempt to not get attached to your Big-Willoughby. My hope is that you will meet someone more worthy of your heart and be able to recognize this before it is too late.
Late Stages (anywhere from 6 months - 5 years. Oh and by the way, if you have stayed with this guy for five years, give yourself a major kick in the ass, courtesy of my foot)
Now, if you have somehow gotten yourself to the Late Stages, take heart my dear friend, you are not alone. I have been there (I was “dating” my Big-Willoughby for a little over a year) and thousands of other women have too. Unfortunately, you have most likely had your heart broken at this point and have been put through hell. You’ve probably cursed yourself a million times over for getting involved with your Big-Willoughby, but you are too far gone to easily get out. Things are very rocky in your relationship at this point and are probably going to end soon (beware: it takes several break-ups for this kind of relationship to officially end).
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| Do not go out drinking when you are missing him |
1) If you’re having a day where you REALLY miss Big- Willoughby, do not go out drinking that night. If you did not have the willpower months ago to erase his number from either your contact list or your call log, or if you did but happened to have scribbled his number on a piece of paper that you just so happened to have stashed in the back of your desk drawer (just in case), then you will most likely drunk dial him. And this is never a good thing.
2) Never expect closure with a Big-Willoughby. NEVER. Don’t try to get it; you never will. Remember, he will always be the one that got away.
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